Being Sorry Pays

If you are someone who occupies an intersection of your identity that experiences oppression, marginalization, erasure, and racism, you probably have done things for your survival that you wish you did not have to do. Like having to say “I’m sorry” when you have nothing to apologize for. How many times have you needed to make yourself small, take up less room, apologize for the way of your existence, because it didn’t benefit the people in power? Have you seen others, like your parents, do this? What are the effects of continually needing to self deprecate yourself, because you need to survive? And on a systemic scale, what could be the effects on your community? When you think of these questions, and when you notice yourself or those in your community apologize to eat, what emotions do you feel?

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